Dear Soul Doctor
I Feel like a complete failure! I had a lot of trouble with my grades in secondary school no matter how hard I tried. I’m now in University but I’m having trouble keeping up again. All my courses are so difficult! My parents are very upset with me right now and they think I’m a failure too! I wish I could prove to them that I can get through the course but I’ve been failing again. What can I do? I’m at my wits end!
You are not a failure at all! I need you to stop ‘thinking’ failure and ‘talking’ failure! Sometimes the problem may be an academic mismatch. Sit down and write down all your gifts or natural talents. What do you love doing? Where would you like to see yourself in 3 years time? Many of us get into university just to get a degree. Difficulties may arise when our courses and our real interests don’t match. Is it too late to change your course? Probably not. Have a look at your other options based on fields of real interest. But If you can’t change your course, find someone in college who can help you with course work. Join reading groups. Pray for wisdom. You can also ask your parents to get you a tutor during the holidays. Don’t give up!